Following my recent post on living a fearless life, part of the exercise is for me to explore what my fears are and as positive, loving, outgoing and confident as I am. I realized that with all the society’s norms and countless almost useless dating books and TV series shaped me to be a very protected person.
People tell you to love yet they tell you not to love too much because you need to love yourself first so I build up guards so high that it’s almost impossible to reach, perhaps too high and I’m not the only one. Some of my friends and family, do the same, it’s almost like this has become normal, for us to give restrictions to the very concept of love. I realized then and there that maybe all these wrong relationships, falling for emotionally unavailable men who provide me with an on-off attention was out of my own insecurity and fear of having something real. Continue reading