Please Judge Me
Lately I have been getting a lot of comments on my personality rather than my professions. It started with my interview as a feature blogger on Lifestyle and thanks to many good and bad criticism, it now crawls on to my personal site. First of all, I am not a celebrity, I am a writer, an amateur writer rather, loving my life, living my life, and getting attacked by it. From the “You sound like an American white trash except you’re not American but you’re still a trash,” comment to “These actions are not suitable for Asian countries.”
All I have to say is, define that for me. Maybe I am full of myself and maybe I am happy all the time that people wonder why this chick is always happy, and maybe, just maybe, all these people who trashed comments for me are just purely depressed. I bet this blog right now is already provoking them, once again. However, I would like to emphasize on this one particular comment that contains a lot of grammar mistakes not to mention the countless so called star signs that I can’t even filled up.
To Mr. GuRoo (I am sure you know it all!)
1. ask 10 men, 9(1/2) would say they want their woman unexposed. - And the other 1/2 of the population are still there, thank you, I am not worried about my exposure or non exposure. Honestly, it’s not really how people dress is it? It’s the inside that counts.
2. Da stuff that u r doing to yourself. Taking pics in da pool n post it on da web. Those actions r not suitable in Asian Countries. - So you would prefer it if women do not swim at all, in fact, swim in their dress, that must be better for you. Just a thought since when did ‘bikini,’ become an inappropriate actions for Asian countries?
3. U R popular in doing those things. BUT do u want a man just to “look” “stare” at u, or u want a relationship, love? - Men loves to stare even when women are fully clothed, for your information.
4. THERE R GALS U JUST WANT TO ****, THERE R GALS U JUST WANT TO KNOW, AND THERE R GALS U WANT TO MAKE A LIFE PARTNER - And where do you fall in that? The Guru of Life with perfect marriage and a counsel for all your friends?
5. Before anything, before too late. Think again properly on what you are doing to yourself. - Just incase you have no idea what I do, I am the Feature Writer and yes, I love to party, it’s life, live it.
6. I have been living for 35 years, I HAVE SEEN PEOPLE WHO DID THE EXACT SAME THING LIKE U, they are almost 40 now, never got married - No one is exactly like anyone, people are different, your friends are 40, I am 23 living in the 21st century where as you are from uhh … decades ago? Let me assure you that when I am 40 years old and so happen to be single, I will still be happy with my life with or without your judgment.
7. As an acquaintance, I’d hate to see you to be like them. You are half way there, you can still make a correct move. - I would love to stay home, covered myself with long dresses, cook like a real woman do, scrubs the bathroom, and maybe throw in a foot massage for my imaginary husband but you know what, it’s fake. You have no right to tell people what’s correct and what’s not.
8. Your friends are engaged, and married, don’t think that they will care about what is going to happen to you. - I am happy for my married friends and I know my friends well enough than you do, thank you very much. I have my family to support me.
9. If you want to be popular, be remembered, as least be remembered for the good things you do. Not your stupidity, and how you were ****** - Please fill that blank for me, after all you pretty much said it all. People have different opinions about how I am as well as how they would love to remember me. As for you and your negativity, feel free to remember me as a _________ whatever it was that you’re trying to say.
10. P.S. You posted the comments on a very irrelevant article, next time you want to post something, make sure it’s on the right section. That would prove that you are the GURU.
Most important of all, I am brave enough not to delete your comments, in fact, I would love thank you Mr. GuRoo for expressing your opinions and concern but I am living my life on the track. Happy the way I am and so are my parents, you can turn around and look at your own life instead before you judge me. If you were to judge me at all, do it professionally about my profession.
To all the haters, you are my motivation and I am very happy to hear what you have to say.
September 15th, 2008 at 7:05 am
Everything “GuRoo” wrote can be summed up into 3 words: generalizations, assumptions, and stereotype. Should these 3 words be the basis for someone to alter their lifestyle? I truly hope not.
We’re living in a world where there are a set of expectations of how women “should” act. Since historical times, women have been portrayed in all mediums (Literature, TV, etc) as either 1) a goody-two-shoes, 2) a seductive vixin. Who made up these categories? Men, of course. Why? Because they were threatened. They wanted women to be submissive, subduded, opinion-less, and education-less. So that they could be in charge and feed their own ego.
We’re now living in a more modern world, which is why a message like this saddens me. Because there are still so many people who have this mindset about women. When men party, oh it’s normal. When women party, oh my godd she’s evil!! And same goes with each and every activity.
Hence, when a woman starts to become successful, like Sabina, she is perceived in a negative way, because she is doing something “out of the ordinary”. She is refusing to be submissive, and refusing to conform to the norms of society, and refusing to be categorized into MALE STANDARDS. She is an inspiration to us women, and I truly respect her for everything she is.
September 15th, 2008 at 6:06 pm
Funny how you judge “Mr. GuRoo” on his grammatical errors when you yourself have committed them. Polish up on the writing. Maybe you’ll get more respect as a writer.
September 16th, 2008 at 4:20 am
# Anonymous Says:
September 15th, 2008 at 6:06 pm edit
Funny how you judge “Mr. GuRoo” on his grammatical errors when you yourself have committed them. Polish up on the writing. Maybe you’ll get more respect as a writer.
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And I am sure you have never made the so called ‘grammatical errors’ in life
Thank you and I always try to polish my writing. Just in case you don’t know, even the best writers in the world still have to polish their writing.
Cheers,
September 16th, 2008 at 6:28 am
Give her a break. Everybody takes a step at a time. You can judge somebody if u want them to improve. But don’t condemn anybody. It’s good u recommend, let her decide what’s good for her. Her lifestyle is her choice. It’s a blog. It’s not a battlefield. You got something personal, approach her.
September 17th, 2008 at 2:15 am
That piece of shit must be a women, who got married really early in life, has few children and can’t change anything about it. Cause she never really got a chance to live her life.
Sorry if am wrong and IT turns out to be a MAN. Than the mother fucker must pay to get laid or has never been.
Next time you want to look out for someone, there are other ways to approach, unless you are too fucking ugly!!
September 19th, 2008 at 8:48 am
It seems that you have no problem describing yourself. Sounds just like you. I know who you are (by the way).
September 19th, 2008 at 2:13 pm
Sabina You r the queen …
Dont care any bitches or dogs who is barking ..
You are doing great baby