Just out of curiosity, I know that when you are acquainted with an opposite sex that you thought might have an interest in you or you feel the sparks or it was lust at first bite, you would ask him or her, “Are you seeing anyone?”
Some people go on to a more personal question such as ‘How committed are you?’ Some bluntly asks a thought provoking yet very basic common sense question about loyalty like, ‘If you are so in love with her then why are you here with me?’ A long that wave length, some of us might even go deeper as to, ‘How many girlfriends do you have?’ and worst case scenario is asking someone if they are married.
Point is, it seems like these questions are just never clear enough, because who would have thought that the time has come.. The time where you need to get deeper and start asking, ‘So you’re single, available, no ring on the finger but do you have any kids?’
Just because they are not committed doesn’t mean they are actually not ‘committed.’ And for some just because they say they are ‘committed’ to you doesn’t mean they are ‘committed’ to you ‘alone.’
I know it’s just shocked with some people behavior. It’s like the illusion. And the huge shock might be the question you ask your” Oh fuck, I can’t trust my own instint”